Monday, November 14, 2011

There are wrong opinions

Take being gay for example.  It's so bad that it's an insult.  "You're gay!" or "That object is gay!" or even "That thing that happened just now was 'gay'!"  Oh man, who wants to be gay.  To me, it seems like that would be something you wouldn't want to tell other people, considering that many people will probably see it as a bad thing.
Or, maybe you're a grown adult and you like, say, the Power Rangers.  Most people would say, "Ugh, that's weird," or something.  Or if you're in high school and you like studying.  Who likes studying?  See, those were bad things to like; they were bad preferences.  Or maybe you're a gamer who doesn't like... The Legend of Zelda.  It's only one of the best games of all time, how can you not like it?

But then there were always exceptions and special cases and the like.  Imagine if you're hanging out with people who don't like video games.  Then it's more like, "You like the Legend of Zelda?  Who wastes their time on things like that?"  And then there're the people who are like, "Oh I don't like the Power Rangers now, but when I was 12 I loved them, I mean, who didn't love them when they were 12?"  You see, in some situations it can be a bad opinion to like the Legend of Zelda or to not like Power Rangers.

They say your true friends won't leave you because of your opinions.  But I don't know, can they accept you being gay?  Or, maybe they would never have been "true" friends, but you could have gotten along with them just fine if you didn't say that you liked the Power Rangers.  Sure, they weren't my true friends, but I can't say that I think that that means it's fine for me to alienate them by expressing a wrong opinion.

Imagine this: you're with a group of people you hang out with and you say you like broccoli.  But, these people not only hate broccoli, they hate people who like broccoli.  Man you're screwed.

See, you always have to be aware of what the wrong opinions are in any situation.  The problem is, these wrong opinions can vary constantly with time and place, and even contradict themselves often.  How can you deal with that?  Well, being the genius that I am, I naturally have an answer.

Don't express your opinions and don't commit to your opinions.  Make sure that you are able to let them change, and then just pick the one that seems most correct.  You see, it's not that you're lying about them.  It's that you actually weaken them, and you focus on all the good things about the things you once didn't like, and all the bad things for the things you like, and you actually don't care as much.  You can like something.  You can not like it.  You can like it and not like it.  At the very least, you could avoid having the wrong opinion.

is an over-simplification of the hole I fell into.  I knew it was ridiculous.  No one's going to suddenly not like you because you said you like broccoli, and it was better to follow your preferences than worry about what others might see as wrong.

But, really, if you said something like you were gay, there were people who might suddenly treat you differently.  Right?  I mean, I believe that's true.  And who's to say there aren't people who won't want to hang out with you because you enjoy, say, cosplaying at an anime convention?  And what if you could have been friends with those people otherwise?  What if people think it's weird to play Mario Kart Wii competitively?  What if there're people who think it's not cool to enjoy math?  What if people are going to dislike you because you don't like chocolate milk?
But that's ridiculous, isn't it?  Nobody's going to dislike you because you don't like chocolate milk.  At least, I don't think so.  But what if, what if you enjoy being alone and doing nothing?  Isn't that weird?  And what if...  But that's ridiculous.  But what if-  But- But- But-

And I made my points, argued against them, and laughed at myself all at the same time.  I found out a long time ago that you usually can't just change yourself because your beliefs don't make sense or because there's a simple, normal, more common way you want to live.  There was a reason behind your original self.  Sometimes it was ridiculous, and maybe sometimes it wasn't.

Call it a disorder.  But I don't know if I believe that.  What's the "right" way to think?  Is it wrong just because it's different from other people?
What do you mean I'm only arguing about semantics?  I have my reasons and they're only sometimes ridiculous!!!

1 comment:

  1. "Don't express your opinions and don't commit to your opinions. Make sure that you are able to let them change, and then just pick the one that seems most correct."

    o_O

    Quit thinking like I do!

    Interesting read, as ever.

    Cloud. ~

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